
a letter arrived from mary this week. mary is our 91-year-old former neighbor...humorous, fiesty, and fiercely independent. she lived alone, unless you count charles--her imaginary friend/intruder (depending on the day). i thought it was rather resourceful of a homebound widow to have someone to

blame when her hearing aid had been misplaced or someone to converse with on solitary days. although i guess the police didn't share those sentiments after mary's 19th call requesting help to deal with charles's shenanigans.
mary was a protester. she protested doctor's advice, extra visits from the cleaning lady, friends who

disbelieved charles's existence, and family members who expressed any concern about her living alone. she protested wearing teeth, observing holidays, or adhering to a regular schedule. hadn't she earned the right after all these years to do as she pleased? who ever sent up a big "hurrah" for family anyway?

but the day came when her protests went unheeded. when dropping by for a visit one day late last summer, we discovered that her daughter had flown into town without warning to pack up mary and move her to an assisted living center outside of houston. with no say and no better solution, we could only stand aside and watch our elderly friend

unceremoniously swept from our lives--not to mention her own--overnight.
miriam & i returned later that day with the camera and to briefly discuss this sudden turn of events. mary began the conversation as the woman we knew--proud and strong, with a twinkle in her eye.

but as she talked, the reality of the impending change increased and the shadows moved across her face. within the span of twenty minutes, her expressive features registered a wide range of emotion--from sassy to skeptical to fearful--and by the time we left, it seemed that her spirit had departed as well, escaping to another place

before she could be torn from the house she loved (and had inhabited for 40+ years) and the life she knew.
with these shots, miriam documented the visible and disturbing transformation from a vibrant survivor to a vacant shell. we have them framed in our office...a stunning series and memorable tribute to our friend who is living out her days very differently than she would have preferred.